Well, as promised we’re going to get right into our study on the Fruit of the Spirit. I am so excited about what God is doing in my own heart as I study on the Fruit – beginning of course, with Love.
The Bible tells us so much about love. We are commanded to love our neighbor as ourselves meaning that we should have good will toward others and seek to make peace with everyone. We are admonished to love the Lord our God with all our hearts, minds, souls and strength. The Bible tells us that love never dies; it cannot be destroyed by death. In fact, death is defeated on the cross – by love.
Of course, 1 Corinthians 13 is known as the “Love Chapter” showing us what love is and how we are to love. It states in verse 4 ~ love suffereth long, and is kind; love envieth not; love vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up, doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil; rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth; beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things. Love never faileth. It states what love is NOT and then what love IS. Love rejoices, it bears, it believes, it hopes and it endures.
Many a woman has cringed in her seat when she hears a preacher go to Ephesians 5:22 and speak that ‘evil’ word: “submit”…. as he reads the Scripture aloud, she holds her breath in earnest expectation hoping he won’t stop there, but push forward until at last she hears him say “husbands, love your wives”… and then she breathes a heavy sigh of relief, secretly thanking him under her breath. She’s all too anxious and feels pressure when hearing the word ‘wives’, (knowing fully what’s coming next). She blazes past the Holy Spirit’s gentle nudge in her own heart, and proceeds to spiritually ‘poke’ her husband in the ribcage when the word “love” is uttered.
Ladies, I believe it’s time we gave our husbands a break. I don’t mean a break from responsibility because that’s not our job to relieve him of his responsibility. BUT, we can make it easier on him. When God said for us to submit and them to love (even as Christ also loved the church), which is the higher command? Didn’t Christ DIE for the church? I wonder how many of us would be willing to die for our husbands in the same way they’ve been commanded to die for us? Let me tell you a true story…
In the days of Adam, when he saw woman for the first time he exploded in his heart with, “This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man. Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.” He understood instantly what his role as husband was to be. He was willing to leave the only Father he knew ~ for her. And he proved his willingness when he sinned later. Yes, the woman was deceived first.
Where was her Adam during this time that satan was wooing her away? Was he just frolicking through the tulips without a care? Or was he near her listening in on the conversation? The Bible doesn’t say exactly what he was doing, but she didn’t have to go far in order to give him a taste of what he knew was forbidden. The Bible does say however, that the woman tasted first. She sinned first. Perhaps it was during her moment of sinning that Adam realized just how much he loved her and would be willing to die with her – in order to not be separated from her? Sounds like… husbands, love your wives – even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it, doesn’t it?
I wonder how many of us understand that what God called your husband to do for you is the hardest thing for him to do in the same way that submission is hard for us women? God is a just God. He knows what we need. We need a protector, confidant, provider and sometimes a redeemer from everything evil that would try and deceive us away from the truth.
Ladies, realize the high standard God has called your husband to, and then next time he comes to you and wants to do something nice for you… let him – without demanding he do it ‘your’ way. Next time he offers to take you somewhere even if you don’t want to go, (especially if you don’t want to go)… go quietly.